Why you shouldn’t Stay Together for the Kids
More than 60% of all marriages will end in divorce. Slightly higher divorce rates exist with second or subsequent marriages. Those numbers would quite possibly be higher if there weren’t also many couples staying in loveless, lifeless marriages for the sake of the children. Many couples stay together because it is easier than getting divorced and they assume that, regardless of the situations at home, children want to remain together as a family.
While you might desire nothing more than living life with your spouse and children there are some situations that simply cannot be worked out. If you are arguing with your spouse more than you’re taking; if there is abuse of any sorts; spousal affairs and similar situations all warrant situations that children need to be out of as soon as possible. In these cases it is usually worse for the parents to stay together than it is to sever ties and file for divorce. Statistics show that children of divorced parents grow up to be emotionally stable adults who lead satisfying lives. However, children who witnessed such situations as noted above were more likely to commit crimes, become abusive to their partners, and involve themselves with alcohol and drugs.
If you are able to maintain a good relationship with your spouse but simply no longer feel the flame that once burned, staying together for the kids might work –temporarily. We all need love and companionship, and eventually you’ll seek that from someone else. This can cause more problems than what it is worth.
Children will face emotional triumphs when parents stay in marriages that have dissolved. Sometimes they feel compelled to favor one parent over the other. There may even be resentment from the child if the marriage continues when there is no hope for repair.
In an ideal world all marriages would have the fairy tale ending and the happily ever after. But we all know that this world is anything but ideal. If your marriage is on the rocks, divorcee might be the last thing that you want to happen, but it may very well be the best thing that can happen. Never stay in a relationship that doesn’t make you happy